Peep Talk with Tongryang: Rise above Fear

Hi everyone! Hope you all had a great weekend and ready for a productive week ahead.

So today, I want to talk about fear and I hope this speaks to someone today.

Fear happens to the best of us. Fear is a scared little being that bullies into surrender its victims for fear of being killed by action. Yeah! Fear fears too.  It’s a false feeling of something gloomy looming to happen, if we dare take a step or action. I say its false because always, when you push yourself beyond that negative feeling and do what you are so afraid of, it turns out there was nothing really sinister waiting to happen. Photo credit: personalitytutor.com

Fear comes in different forms and in different degrees. There is fear of failure, fear of under achieving, fear of public speaking, fear of crowd, fear of success and a host of others.

For me, I had been severely short-changed by the fear of success. Yes, you heard right. I have always had incredible believe in myself and my ability to pull off any thing I set to achieve but, thing is, I would not allow myself, I was scared of succeeding, I was scared of all the changes and adjustment my life will take if I succeeded. It took a long time, a lot of efforts; unlearning and relearning to overcome that negativity.

You might be reading this, and you are at the verge of refusing to take on your dream for one fear or the other, darling listen, its ok to fear; acknowledge it even, but it’s unacceptable to buckle under it. Rise up, face fear and watch it diminish into nothingness.

Thanks for stopping by.

Love, always.

Tongryang.

What is Wrong with the World?

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What is wrong with the world? I don’t mean the earth that wombs us all, but the inhabitants of the world; the world’s people.
 
Why has life, which is sacred, suddenly become worthless? People killing each other on the flimsiest and the most mundane excuse?

Why have the world’s people suddenly feel a need to help God? I mean, to protect Him and expand for God? How silly can that be? Killing, for God?

How can some people even dare explain killing others because they feel threatened by their success as if the power to strive and create doesn’t reside in every one of us?
How can another’s struggle to survive even threaten you except you have a deeply rooted problem only you can solve?
What does xenophobia even mean? I mean I get the meaning, I just checked it again in 5 different dictionaries but I still don’t get why its enough reason to hack down, butcher and burn another.

I mean, I don’t even understand the anger, jealousy and hate that have elegantly found expression on social media. What was our world like again before Facebook, Twitter and Instagram? Where did this bitterness emerge from? I mean the one we direct at each other; bullying, tiring and dragging? How come we suddenly don’t know how to be happy with other, how to compliment and simply pour out love?

When did we lose our sense of humour? Why do we find it difficult to laugh? Has our lips all cracked, bleeding with deep wounds, we can’t afford to push it further? I mean, a deep throaty hearty laughter heals, it heals the soul.

When have we suddenly become ashamed to look at each other? Have we all suddenly become ugly, we are afraid to look at our ugliness? Since when did we begin to prefer desperately peering at our phones than to look at each other?

How did we come about accepting being ashamed of looking at each other but shameless in sharing our naked selves online and offline?

What happened to dignity of self? Self-value and respect for one another? Since when have women become comfortable birthing children for men not ready to do right by them? Since when has it even become acceptable, even fashionable?

Why are we not satisfied with ourselves anymore? Why do we desperately need to enlarge, enhance and retouch?

Since when did we begin to change our genitalia like the clothes we wear? So now, we can simply decide to change not just our orientation, preference but our sex?

When exactly did children, even babies become sexy? That an adult can even fathom, talk less go ahead and abuse them? Why did we even create the word paedophile? We seem to acknowledge, accept and partake in maiming our babies by simply using the word.

I mean what exactly has gone wrong with the world?

My head aches, my heart breaks whenever I contemplate finding answers to these questions and a lot more like them that won’t just let my pretty head be. Somebody got answers? Help me understand please. What is wrong with our world?

 

Thanks for stopping by.

Love, always.

Tongryang

 

Back to Normal

Hi everyone! Hope ya all are doing great like I am… Yeah! I believe so.

 It’s been a bit. Well, more than a bit actually, it’s been a long long time since I posted anything here and honestly, my excuses are just excuses and I won’t bore you with them.

So, a lot of water has passed under the bridge right? Yeah! If you are a Nigerian or live in Nigeria, you’d know a lot has happened.  

Firstly, the thick fog hovering over Nigeria prior to our general elections has cleared up and life has pretty much returned to normal. You know, prior to the elections, lots of Nigerians travelled back to their home states and practically placed their lives on hold, but thank God, things are returning to normal.

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Ok, let me give you gist, you know how before the elections, there were predictions and counter predictions of Nigeria splitting; dividing as a result of crisis that would erupt at the tail of the elections? Ehen! Then, I formed a prayer point: God disgrace and disappoint everyone that has predicted or that is planning evil against your country Nigeria. It was one of my major prayer points during my church’s 21 days prayer and fasting in January and boi! Did God answer me or not? My darlings, God chose to answer my prayers and he disgraced and disappointed those agents of doom wishing my country evil by granting us peaceful elections. Yes ke, I sell fish like that, taking all the credit for praying for  peaceful elections... Anyways, I am beyond happy with the outcome of the elections in Nigeria, as power has returned (if it ever belonged) to the masses. Nigerians came out en masse and voted, and their votes counted; that is the dawn of a new day.
Now, the process wasn’t totally free from hitches but it was above average and will certainly get better with time. For that, I am grateful.

So, away from election matters, a lot of you lovely people reached out to me, asking why I abandoned the blog again. Truth is, I really didn’t. Lots of things happened, I was even sick for a while but i am ok now and I just want to thank you all for reaching out during my absence.

I have being thinking of ideas to make the blog even better for your reading pleasure, so be expectant.

Thanks for stopping by.

Love, always.

Tongryang